When we look at other people it can be easy for us to pick out flaws and know how to fix those flaws. It’s not that the intent is to be rude or even insulting but comments can come across that way if you’re not careful. Recently, while I was perusing Facebook, I saw a post about how people don’t need supplements and all they have to do is x, y, and z to look and feel good. This comment inspired me to write this blog post called 10 Things Healthy People Do Not Understand About Fat People.
Before you get all bent about the term “fat people”, I am fat and use the words in as much of a loving way as I can. I am over weight by about 100 lbs if the BMI is used as an indicator. I have struggled with my weight for many years and while I don’t have a PHD in psychology I can attest to my own thoughts on this matter.
I’m Not Mad
I am not writing this blog post out of anger, far from it! However, I feel I must touch on this topic for all of you that are in my shoes. In saying that, it does boil me a bit when someone who has been skinny, his or her whole life, comments on how
fat people should just do this or that, eat clean and exercise and you’ll be alright
To me, this type of statement is as credible as a 40 year old parent of 0 telling 20 year old new parents how to be a parent. Again, this is not an attack on intensions, it’s my blog and I’m writing from the heart.
I Value Opinions
I do, in spite of my comments from above, value opinions. The problem with some people’s opinions is that they feel that it’s fact when it just an opinion. My response to these opinions is in fact my own opinion so take it as you will. However, as stated above, I am considered fat and therefore can attest to some, if not all, of the 10 Things Healthy People Do Not Understand About Fat People.
10 Things Healthy People Do Not Understand About Fat People
Aright, let’s get down to the topic at hand shall we? The following are the 10 Things Healthy People Do Not Understand About Fat People!
- We don’t want to be this way!
It’s true, we don’t get up every morning and think to ourselves:
Damn I’m happy I’m fat!
In fact, when I get up each day I often don’t think about being fat at all! It’s not that I’m in denial, I just don’t think of it as an issue at all times of the day. When I do think about it, I realize that obesity is an issue and one that I should deal with. I don’t want to be fat, I want to see my toes when I stand straight up! There’s no glory in being so out of shape that going up a flight of stairs feels like a lot of work.
- I realize I eat too much bad food!
I’m not in denial, although I know some big people that are in denial about their diets. I eat poorly! My bane to my diet is eating poorly late at night. I can eat great all day long and ruin it all at night time with a sandwich or two, bagged popcorn, or whatever else I can get my hands on that is fatty and good-tasting.
- It Hurts More!
Things in general hurt more when you’re carrying around a bunch of extra fat! Knees are one of the first constant pains one gets and it can be severe. The lower back gets stressed a lot more when you are fat and this can be quite debilitating. Feet start to lose arch and flatten out as well, causing major pains. We hurt more and it’s not because we’re whining about pains. You cannot understand these pains unless you are afflicted by them while being fat!
- We’re Addicted!
Did you know that sugar is a highly addictive substance? Did you know that fat people tend to have a sugar rich diet? This is why obese people tend to have diabetes, because they eat too much sugar in their diets. This must be kept in mind with point number 5 and 6.
- Change is Difficult
OK, this is one of those topics where people will say, if you want change then change! While I don’t disagree with this notion, I will say that this is not an easy thing for people that are really over weight. Why? You need to understand plasticity in the brain. In other words, neural pathways are formed in the brain when we do or think things. Eating poorly creates not only dependencies on sugars but it also creates neural pathways that say “heh, you need to eat this shit instead of that good stuff there”. This is real science, if you want to learn about it a bit more, CLICK HERE. Basically, neural plasticity is where all habits, both physical and mental, are formed and etched into our brains. It takes a lot to make new neural pathways and it takes a lot to shut off old neural pathways. To reinforce this notion, take one bad habit you have and stop it right now! It just isn’t that easy.
- Clean Eating Problem
Remember point 4 where I talked about us being addicted to sugars? Here’s where the rubber meets the road, so to speak. Some will say that clean eating is the key to weight management and weight loss success. I don’t disagree with this theory in principal, but this is why most fat people fail when they start dieting! Follow along with my thoughts on this and tell me I’m wrong, comment below if you think I’m off my rocker.
I had spent 10 years eating poorly, getting fat, and feeling bad. My diet consisted of McDonalds, processed foods, sweets, and pop-drinks like Pepsi or Coca-Cola. I decide one day that I’ve had enough of this fat life and that it was time to make drastic changes. I searched for a good clean-eating diet and found one that excited me. I got to shopping to buy all the right foods and couldn’t wait to start at it. I prepared my meals for the next day and felt quite accomplished for this change I was making.
The next day comes and I started with vigor and excitement. I ate my first clean breakfast, gathered my snacks and lunch, and then headed off to work. At 10:00 am I ate my first snack and it was a good thing too because I was feeling really hungry and a little moody about it. At 12:00 pm it’s time for lunch and wow, this couldn’t come any quicker. I actually got the shakes – I was so hungry. Up to this point I had drank no cola and had consumed almost 2 liters (1/2 gallon) of water. I could feel a headache coming on but I passed it off as just a headache, and I was hungry. By 3:00 I was feeling tired, irritable, hungry, and down on myself! I ate my last snack that was, quite honestly, unfulfilling. By the time I got home from work at 4:30 pm I was ready to kill all the people I know. Plus, I was feeling so hungry. I ate my planned supper for 5:30 and by 8:00 pm I was so irritable that no one wanted to be around me. I was thinking about those bad-for-me comfort foods, they were predominant thoughts in my head and by 8:10 pm I was giving into them, just a little bit. I had a bad snack but I felt better and thought, “it’s OK, I’ve done much better today so I’m off to a good start”.
After a full week of the same feelings, day in and day out, I reflected and found that I haf increased my bad foods to a level that offset the good. I got depressed about this and dove deeper into the bad-eating abyss.This diet obviously sucked right? Next week I’ll try a different diet.
Can you guess how next week’s diet will go? This is why many pros will say that prescribed diets don’t work.
To me, this is one of the most important of the 10 things healthy people do not understand about fat people. Do you agree?
- Exercise is Futile
Remember when I said we hurt more? These pains, knee, back, and others, get dramatically amplified with exercise. I know, we need to work through these pains but they can be dreadfully debilitating. Not only are these pains a factor but the new exercise pains are not easy to deal with either. Don’t forget, fat people are typically lazy and therefore will feel pains more when doing the lightest of exercises. Sure, a weight lifter can say “I lift heavy and feel lots of pain, but I work through it! Look at my six-pack!” If you’ve ever been fat then you’d know that the pain from new exercising is far worse than a healthy body recovering from muscle building. It’s not to say that we can’t get over this pain but it takes longer and trust me, it feels worse.
Of the 10 things healthy people do not understand about fat people, this is the greatest
Get Over It
Sayings I think I have ever heard! While a healthy person thinks this way, us fat people know the pain can be surreal.
- We Need Hope, Not Ridicule!
Because of the above point, we can lose hope that we’ll ever successfully lose weight. Instead, we will ridicule ourselves and call ourselves failures, losers, or other negative connotations. These ridicules get reinforced when we see others make comments or posts on social media talking about “eating clean” or “this is what you do, it’s easy”. It’s not easy, it’s very difficult and you have to remember this. If you want to be encouraging to us fat people, remember this point from the 10 things healthy people do not understand about fat people.
- We Yearn for The Easy Fix!
Because of all the above, we actually yearn for an easy fix, or at least a temporary easy fix to get us on our way to success. Can you blame us? When we cut sugars from our diets we need some sort of energy replacement and will turn to energy bars, drinks, or vitamins. We look to companies that offer solutions to what ails us and will try different products until we find that one that helps. This is why the Health and Wellness and Weight Loss industries are billion dollar industries. We look to them for that kick start to a better us because many of us fat people need that kick start.
Supplements Are Necessary
Again, this is where the skinny and healthy will say, just eat clean, you don’t need those garbage supplements that probably don’t work anyways. You’re wrong little person, you’re wrong! Whether you are taking a protein meal replacement or trying those crazy wraps from It Works, a good supplement to a bad diet is a great idea.
For instance, I have recently cut back on sugars in my diet. I didn’t cut them out completely but I cut back on them quite a bit. I also went on a Thrive 6 day Mini Experience that helped dramatically with my energy, mental acuity, and overall mood. Did Thrive help with the sugar cut-backs? I think it did! Would I suggest Thrive to anyone looking to lose weight or get more energy out of each day? I absolutely would. If you found a product that really helped you, wouldn’t you tell people about it? Of course you would.
If you would like to know more about Thriving, you need to fill out the form below, I may even be able to get you a 3 Day Mini Experience so that you can check it out for yourself.
I suggested Thrive to someone that had been suffering from severe exhaustion and a severe lack of energy and this is what she had to say about her experience:
About 20 minutes after I took all 3 (capsules, drink mix, and DFT patch) my switch was turned ON! & I did MORE than I had planned,. I was EARLY for my plans, I had energy to spare, despite not having had any sleep, a woman commented that I looked YOUNGER. That’s because I didn’t even look tired, it was awesome, really truly awesome. If I can take this stuff every day, I could easily go back to work.
I would love to share her whole story and maybe one day I will but for now you just need to know that she struggled for years and on her first day of Thriving she felt amazing and alive.
My own experience with Thrive has been documented on Facebook but you can see some of my documentation by watching the video below.
In closing, my hopes are to show you all that changing one’s diet and exercising like mad are not the sole solutions to changing the life of a fat person. I hope that these 10 Things Healthy People Do Not Understand About Fat People makes sense to you and that you can understand our point-of-view better now that you’ve read this.
If you have any opinions you would like to share, please leave a comment below. If you would like to share this with your social media communities, I would really appreciate that too – sharing is caring.
Michael M Vasas
That’s it for today, have a great day and be great because no one can be great for you!
Michael M Vasas